How to be more courageous and reclaim your personal power
You may know that I LOVE words! Languages and communication has been part of my personal and professional journey ever since I was born. I grew up bilingually speaking Punjabi/Urdu and English. I was fascinated by French and Spanish and became a languages teacher in Secondary Education. What fascinated me was the power of words. You see, I grew up as a ‘victim’ of domestic violence. The words I grew up hearing consistently was:
You’re not good enough
You keep making mistakes
You did that wrong
You’re useless
You have no common sense (This one makes me laugh because it might be true!!)
You can’t do anything properly
I hate you
You’re ugly
Essentially this made me feel inadequate and forced me to try even harder, to seek approval from being a good girl to seek validation that I was worthy of being born. it was certainly tough going and it really is a miracle that I AM ALIVE to share the wisdom of my inner pain with others who also want to tap into their courageous selves. How did I transform those situations? Awareness of my self-talk and proactively asking for courage, faith, trust and the inner strength to come through the worst of times.
My inner dialogue started sounding like what adults were saying to me and it didn’t feel kind. I felt as if I had to be my own best friend and protect myself. This led to me starting to ASK FOR COURAGE-And, of course you can’t buy it from a shop! From within, from my inner potential, from those unawakened resources I wanted courage to overcome (come through) the fears that were stopping me from leaving violent situations. It was a journey for sure!
How can you tap into your courageous self?
1. Ask for it-close your eyes and take a moment to focus on your breathe. Ask yourself ‘What do I want more of? What do I need?’ Listen and state what you want ‘I want to courageously say how I feel’ or whatever it may be for you. Use language that inspires you.
2. Read examples of women and men who have gone through difficult times yet have comes through them. What is their story of courage? Use language that empowers you.
3. Coach yourself- This means that you ask yourself a question and trust the answers that follow without any judgement. Use language that is conversational.
4. Think back to times when you have felt courage, brave, powerful. Recall those memories and KNOW that if you could do it once, you CAN do it again! Use language of past experiences with respect and gratitude.
5. Be gentle, kind and loving to yourself – Because the truth of connecting with other people is that most people aren’t always kind or gentle, compassionate and non-judgemental to others. Each of us is walking our own path according to what we believe about ourselves. Use non-jugdemental & compassionate language.
6. Change is constant and VERY POWERFUL when you proactively design your own changes- as in be more confident, speak up more, heal your inner world, take the trip, feel all that you feel, don’t hold onto expectations when life has a different (and always better!) plan. Change your language patterns by updating your vocabulary. As a language learner I was constantly learning new words and shifting how well I articulated myself.
There is so much more to you yet to be explored-are you living a life that is fulfilling, uplifting and joyful? Are you ready to move forward and do things differently? It’s all in you!
I’d love to hear your thoughts so share below when you have felt courageous. What do you have to do to claim back your personal power? It’s one of the ways that we connect 😉
Life is today to DARE TO DREAM & DARE to realise your dreams in reality. You CAN do it.
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Leila x www.lifeistodayacademy.com